Dating: The Perfect Proposal

Asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is always going to be a nerve wracking experience, which is all the more reason to be as well prepared as possible. Rebecca J. Thomas tells you how.


Proposing marriage is something that you will hopefully only have to do once in your lifetime, so the key is to get it right the first time. While many spontaneous marriage proposals have been readily accepted, in general preparation is the key to a memorable and successful proposal. Here’s how to ensure that things go without a hitch.


The first (and arguably most important) part of your decision is to settle upon a location. Once you’ve done this you can start planning the finer parts of how you are going to go about actually popping the question. Some people make the location the central theme for their proposal, either by choosing a grand venue such as the steps of the Sydney Opera House or by choosing somewhere that is special to them and the person they are proposing to. An example of this is finding a spot where you and your partner shared a special experience for the first time. This could be the scene of your first picnic or first kiss, and you could create a unique and special atmosphere by setting up a beautiful table for an unforgettable al fresco meal, after which you would get down on one knee. Alternatively, a favorite restaurant (ideally one with a fantastic view) can make an equally worthy option.

Another variable to consider when seeking to make an unforgettable proposal is whether to opt for a special date. This could be the date of your partner’s birthday, the date upon which you first met, or any other date that has special significance for both of you. However, if dates or anniversaries don’t have any particular meaning within your particular relationship, then you should just focus on picking a date which will be convenient for both of you. Should things go well, you’re probably going to want to celebrate afterwards so proposing on a Monday evening of a working week may not be the best idea.


Proposals can also be made better by making them personalized. When you propose, your partner should feel that you have made a conscientious effort to make it about you and them. It shouldn’t be a proposal that you could have made to anyone.

If personalizing your proposal through the venue or the date is not a viable option, think about what other spontaneous or romantic acts you can employ. Could you write a meaningful love letter, spell your partner’s name out in shells on a beach, or take them for a horse ride at sunset? There are a million different ways to make your proposal remarkable, simply take the time to think about what it is that makes you special as a couple and incorporate that into your proposal. And if you’re going to try to incorporate humor into your proposal, make sure your partner is going to get the joke!


Many people planning a proposal are often unsure whether or not they should choose a ring, or wait until their partner accepts and then purchase a ring together at a later date. If you feel completely unsure of what your partner might like, either enlist the help of their friends or wait until they accept. However, that said, many people do like to receive a ring at the time of the proposal. The most important thing to remember when purchasing an engagement ring is that it will hopefully be worn for several decades. This means that your number one priority should be to select something that will look good for many years to come. As such, you should avoid styles that are overly fashionable or of the current time as they risk looking dated in the future. It is far preferable to choose something that is classically beautiful and that your partner will love after being married for many years.

However, whichever venue you choose and whether or not you choose a ring, the most important thing is to make the proposal about the unique love that you and your partner share. By doing this one thing, you will ensure that your proposal is perfect for you and your partner. Best of luck!